What to wear for date ( or what not to wear for a date)

I recently received an email from an underwear company representative asking me to write about clothes men and women should not wear for a date. He asked me to focus on underwear but we did not find an understanding as to how we would proceed. However I thought that the topic was too interesting to ignore. So today I give you : What not to wear for a date!

There are several things one should never wear for a date. And they all differ according to the situation (whether it is a blind date, a first date or a date between married people), the location,  the weather and so forth. But no matter the situation, these are the basic rules you have to follow :

Put a little effort into it!

I am talking to myself mostly and other women and men who have been married for years. You cannot be bothered to be dolled up and handsome every day for your spouse. But when you go on a date, even for a casual one, make an effort. Ladies, wear heels, make up, do your hair in a different way that he is used to see. And Men,  groom yourself, wear a nice shirt and good perfume. Do not go to the date wearing sweats or clothes you hang around in the house.

Be yourself!

It is a first date and you want to impress. Your girlfriends tell you to wear that sexy cut out dress that you purchased on impulse. But the dress does not represent your style. My advice: do not wear it. First of all,  if you wear it you will feel very uncomfortable and it will show. Second,  you do not want to give the person a false impression of yourself. And you have only one chance to make a first impression. I suggest you wear something that you are comfortable in it but that looks good on you. Moreover it has to be an upgraded version of your style. For example if you are a tee and jeans kind of girl,  go for a jeans but with a pretty blouse.

Dress accordingly!

If you are going to a beautiful park for a laid back date,  wear casual shoes that would allow you to walk without having blisters. If you know you are going outside on a chilly night,  grab a jacket.  Men might pretend to be chivalrous and lend you their jackets when you are cold but most of them do not like it that much. Do your homework in order to be ready. If the location is the surprise,  ask for a small clue so you would not end up wearing a cocktail dress for brunch. Men,  this goes for you as well. Being overdressed or under dressed still makes you look silly on any occasion so do your part.

It is all in the attitude!

You do not have to show all your personality at once during the date. And treat your party with respect. Men, be a gentleman: open the door for her, let her go first, offer to pay for the coffee or meal. Ladies, always be prepared to pay whether or not your date offers. Be tasteful and classy. Moreover, avoid all dangerous topics on the first date such as previous relationships, religion and politics.

Now that you have the basic rules,  let us dig deeper into the subject.

First date

The first date can be the start of something amazing or not. But you are going in it with high exceptions. If it is for a coffee,  wear casual with a twist. Men,  a simple nice shirt (in prints like gingham or stripes) that shows your personality paired with jeans or cotton pants that are neither baggy nor skinny will do. Try experimenting with colors, but think about colors that either compliment or contrast with each other. Do not wear wrinkled shirts or distressed jeans. Add sneakers or loafers as footwear. Do not forget to wear dark socks with the shoes.Take care of your hair (facial also if you have it), cut those long nails. Remember you want to make a good first impression.

Casual dates outfits for men

Ladies, for a casual first date, opt for a sundress with a simple jacket and some sandals. You can also try on fitted jeans and a nice blouse with heels. Your hair should be done and your nails manicured. I recommend a simple and natural make up. Keep your accessories to the minimum as not to scare off your date.

Casual dates (woman)

Formal date

For a formal date at a fancy bar or restaurant, you can go all the way. Women can put on sexy dresses that are either fitted or flirty. And remember the rule about revealing too much. You can either show cleavage or legs but not both at the same time. Plus a blazer is a good way to look demure even when sporting something sexy underneath it. Since the date will probably be at night, you can up your make up game by going with a smoked eye or shimmery eye shadows. Also, wear heels, strappy or pumps, anything that you can do a sexy walk in without falling down. Do not forget to add a little sparkle with baubles or earrings.

Formal dates

As for you my men, a formal jacket is a must with a white or colored shirt underneath it and well ironed slacks. You can wear a tie but it is not obligatory. Think about classic attire.Try to smell good by putting on some after shave or cologne.

Formal date outfits for men

What not to wear at all:
For Women:
- Flip-flops (unless you are at the beach)
- Too revealing dresses ( unless you want to be treated like a whore)
- Distressed denim ( even if it's the trend,  it still does not look good.)
- Wrinkled clothes ( you end up looking unkept)
- Heavy make up ( you want him to touch you without having all your foundation on his hands)
- Too much perfume (some people are allergic)

For Men:
- Showing underwear (you are not a rappeur)
- No baggy or skinny jeans
- Long nails
- Unkept hair and facial hair
- Colorful suits (you are not a pimp!)
- Too tight tee shirts (this isn't Jersey Shore!)

 I hope this was helpful.

I am always open to suggestions on this blog. If you want me to talk about a particular fashion topic, send your inquiries to michellethiongane@gmail.com. I would be happy to help.


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