Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Style me polish

Last week, I got mad at my husband. I usually get mad at him and then get over it in a second. But that time, what he told me bugged me all day. I was about to leave the house dressed in faded green cargo pants and a wrinkled brown sweater when he asked me to change into something more suitable. I was in a rush so I did not have time to really think about what I was wearing. I just grabbed the first thing out of my suitcase. After all I was just dropping off my kids at school, not going to the ball. As pissed as I was I changed into a ironed white shirt and just left.

Usually I do not care about my husband's critics when it comes to dressing up. I do believe that he and I do not see eye to eye when it comes to Fashion and Style. He is set in his ways and I stopped years ago trying to change them even it embarrassed me once or twice (Once, when we were dating, he wore a red shirt with white polka dots that he had when he was a teenager aka in the mid 90s). I am also set in my ways but he usually does not complain as long as I am decent. So I am not sure what's got into him that day.

Anyway, once I cooled down I got to take a good look at myself. In other words I did a self critic. I am 32 going on 33. I am a housewife with no prospects of a job anytime soon. I spend most of my time at home or shopping for food and picking up my kids. I do go out from time to time to enjoy myself. My life is very casual which is why my clothes are very casual. I do not have many things that are professional or very fancy in my closet. I am not even sure I have that suit needed for interviews anymore. I do have some of the essentials like a white shirt and dark slacks. I also have one pair of pumps, fabulous sandals, some decent jackets and a little perfect dress just in case.  But that is about it. The rest of my closet is full of tees, maxi skirts, maxi dresses, leggings and leggings typed colorful denim.

It is not that bad but I need a bit more polish. I need to look my age. I need to look the part (which part I am not sure yet but...). Therefore I decided that I no longer need certain things in my wardrobe like see through, light fabric or ill fitted, neon or animal printed tees that only teenagers would wear. I have a certain body type that does not do well with tight things. And considering that this body of mine is not in a great shape recently, I have to learn to dress for it. Furthermore, I am all about modest dressing but just in talk. In fact I am all about talk when it comes to that. I need to walk the walk and follow more of my own rules.  Do not get me wrong, I will still be casual in tees and jeans. But let us just say that my tees will look more like blouses than actual tees. And then at least, I would not spend an entire day being mad at my husband because he told me in the morning that my clothes were not appropriate.

Truth be told, it is just another excuse to go shopping....

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

To blend in or to stand out?

Hello there for those who read me. I am sorry there have not been any posts lately. I have been busy and really uninspired.

Nevertheless, the inspiration came back as I was shuffling through the pages of a magazine. There was an article asking if a woman should change the way she dresses for a man. Two women answered it, one is a fashion designer and the other one is a stand up comic. The fashion designer advocated against changing the way you dress for a man but the stand up comic was asking to ditch that personal style.

As a fashion blogger and style icon wannabe, I felt offended by what the stand up comic had to say. She ridiculed the fact that women wore animal prints and heels in the city. She said that if men wanted to date cheetahs, they would and not women dressed as cheetah. She went on to add that camouflage was to blend in with nature and not to stand out.

I think she completely lost the point about fashion and style. Women nowadays (and since the beginning of times) do not dress to blend in. They dress to stand out, some more outrageously than others. Whether they are wearing animal print, stripes, bold colours or even go the Goth route, they always expect to be noticed and not necessarily by men. Look at Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj or even Beyonce. They always have some kind of over the top outfit for the pleasure of our eyes and gossip magazines. But it is not only about the celebrities. Google the number of fashion blogs there are in this world. How many women (and men) dress up and take pictures of their outfits everyday for the world to see. Do you really think that all of these people (included myself) do want to blend in. No, they want the world to see them, to get to know them, to like them and even to hate them. But they want to be seen, acknowledged...never will they want to fade in.

Not everyone is like them obviously. Some people think of clothing as just another thing they have to do in their day. They cannot walk around naked so they will dig a shirt and pants and get out of the house without caring if they look proper, put together or trendy. They are not looking to be recognized for their clothing because they are too busy with other things or they just do not care. I am those people sometimes; I just cannot be bothered to wear heels or make up even if that would make me more put together. Clothes are not the only thing in my life and I would not want them to define me either.

Nevertheless, I will use them to show the world who I am. Because ironically, we live in a world where clothes make the person; what you wear automatically defines who you are as person. It is all about appearances. You wear a Piaget watch, you are rich; you wear the latest trend, you are fashionable, you wear a red dress, you are confident. It may not be all true but it appears to be so.

The stand up comic ended her article by saying that "Life is hard enough getting people to like us for who we are; please let's not complicate it further" by wearing man repellents clothes. I answer this: "yes! Life is hard, particularly because people are intolerant, hateful and selfish. And because we waste our time trying to make the wrong people like us. But I am going to make my life a little funner and laugh at those who wants to judge me by wearing what I want". I refuse to blend in. I am not here to. 

So what are your thoughts? Would you rather stand out or blend in?


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